Ok, confession time.
Last weekend, I was out at an event, and I noticed a girl dancing. Without much warning, my head went to a judgement place. I thought she was dancing rather ostentatiously in an effort to get everyone’s attention and eyes on her, and I thought to myself “how tacky and narcissistic!” I found myself annoyed, and I found myself making other judgments about this girl and the kind of person I thought she was.
Ok, there, I said it. I’m not proud of it. But, I am human and I succumb to the power of the ego just like everyone else.
But the whole experience got me to thinking. Why was I so quick to react? Why is it that judgment can feel like such a strong force that’s so hard to resist even when we “know better”?
And, more importantly, what am I missing by staying stuck in that judgmental place? How is it inhibiting my own well being and personal growth when I stay judgmental? And what’s a more healthy alternative for responding when I feel triggered by judgment?
Though I certainly have lots to learn on this topic myself, I humbly share with you some of the insights I’ve had from my recent self inquiry in hopes of promoting a more cohesive sense of sisterhood among all women on this planet. We’ve got enough to deal with without beating each other up with mean thoughts. So, let’s explore the alternative. Take a peak.
So, there you have it. Overcoming any old pattern first starts with understanding what beliefs it’s rooted in.
Once you can see clearly that your judgment is not coming from a place of deep truth, but from some combination of limiting beliefs, you’re on your way to carving out a new path forward to discernment.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you’ve struggled with judgment.
Do you find yourself judgmental of other women? How have you tried overcoming these judgments in your experience?
Any advice and tips?
Big love sisters,
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